First off, I have to thank God for the gift of our daughter and everything she has taught us over the last 21 months. Now I have to thank God again because I never thought I was going to be given the gift of two children. I won’t lie but I am a little more scared the second time around. Scared of whether I will be able to raise a boy since I have always been surrounded by women in my life, scared of how I make sure that neither of my children feel favoured or left out at the same time, scared of how I can be a good mother, a good wife, and a career woman all at once, scared of how my decisions impact those around me. This I guess is what they call parenthood.
I am super thankful for Leon who has been the backbone to this family during this crazy time. He is my superman and super dad when I am a nervous wreck. He deals with my emotions whether they are up or down and supports all of us through it all. We still fight, we still battle it out, but at the end of the day I am thankful that we do because it only means that we are willing to challenge each other and care enough to make it work. Raising a family isn’t easy, keeping a marriage together is even harder, and remembering how lucky we are to just be alive is the reality of life. We both remind each other of that and I am lucky to have a partner in life that is my best friend, my husband, and a father who is truly hands on. I can’t really ask for more.
It takes a village to raise a child and I can’t finish this blog without mentioning one more important person in this family unit. My mom. She is in HK right now at a reunion of sorts ( wish I was there but for some reason being 36 weeks pregnant they don’t recommend flying :p ). She has been the reason why I have been able to do all the things that I have accomplished in life and in recent months. She is the reason why Alexis feels loved from all sides and why Leon and I have a great relationship. From the day I was born she has been my guardian and she continues to be. I can only hope that I can take care of her half as well as she has taken care of me over the years.
And with that I am anxiously waiting for little boy’s arrival. His room is almost done, I have two more weeks before I am off work, and I am so excited for my daughter to have a built in friend for life. I know that just because they are siblings they are not guaranteed best friends but I hope they growing up knowing they have one another. Maybe it is my wishful thinking since I was raised as an only child and always saw how all my friends had these enviable relationships with their siblings.
So to my child who is joining this family in less than a month. Mommy is excited for you to join us and she wants to remind you that as lucky as we are to have you join us. You are a lucky child because you have a family that will love you more than life itself. As the theme in our household goes…”All you need is love”